Tuesday, May 19, 2009

Race in Escorting

Tuesday, May 19, 2009
This is probably one of the more controversial posts I'll ever make.

In the year I've been escorting, a majority of my clients have been either Caucasian or Hispanic. That's just the way it is in Miami, especially in the neighborhoods that my agent sends me to. Be it Coral Gables or Pinecrest, Bay Point or the upscale parts of Coconut Grove, the ethnic makeup is fairly similar across the board.

Would I ever see an African-American or an Asian American woman? Absolutely. I've dated women from these backgrounds before and found them just as wonderful as the ones I see at work.

However, that's not the case with everyone. Today, I heard of a woman flat-out refusing to see an African-American man. No way, no how was she taking his money. He could offer her double, she said, it didn't matter. Just send someone else.

I don't know why I was surprised to see racism rear its ugly head in escorting. After all, it's present in virtually every other part of life -- from job interviews to loan applications, traffic stops and shopping excursions. Escorting certainly isn't a bubble.In fact, one might argue that escorting can serve as a microcosm of the outside world.

All of these preferences and prejudices we have in America are almost magnified in the world of sex-work, where whims and desires are indulged on a regular basis. If someone doesn't like members of one ethnicity, well, they certainly aren't going to deal with them in such an intimate situation if possible.

Another girl took the booking, of course. My agent hardly batted an eyelash at the little hiccup, but later asked me if I had any similar preferences.

"If a black woman were to request a booking, would you take it?" she said.

"Sure. I don't know why _______ had an issue with it. Her loss."

"You're so much easier than the girls, Julian. If men earned as much money as women could, I'd set up an all-male group and never look back."

Later at the gym I thought about if there was any reason I would refuse to see a client. It certainly wouldn't have anything to do with race, but I did have a few deal-breakers. Under no circumstance will I not use a condom, nor will I have group sex with people I don't know.

All of these things have to do with character, not color, because to me that's what matters most.

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