While combing through my Hushmail account, I noticed that I had another email from a teen reader. It wasn't the first time a teenager had sent me a message, and I doubt it will be the last time, either. It was fairly standard in terms of content -- though I won't be posting any of it here.
What disturbed me about the email is that this reader thought it was somehow trendy or cool to get involved in sex work. From what I can gather, he thought that by reading my blog, he could forego any form of higher education and just became an escort.
No. No. NO!
At the risk of sounding like a complete hypocrite, I will freely admit that I enjoy my work and am glad to be doing it. However, prostitution as a whole is rife with danger, especially for the naive eighteen-year-old right out of high school. There are other factors that make sex work unsuitable for someone in their late teens as well -- mainly a lack of sexual experience and an even greater lack of emotional maturity.
Kids, having sex for a living isn't always glamorous, and sometimes it's downright draining. There have been plenty of times when I was lounging on my sofa in the midst of a thunderstorm, perfectly content to stay in and watch a DVD, only to realize I had to go to Miami Beach and have sex with a stranger.
And once I arrive at the hotel to have sex with said stranger, God only knows what she'll want. Maybe it'll be something tame like missionary. Maybe she wants reverse cowgirl anal. Perhaps both, along with a full-body massage.
Then there's the matter of being able to compartmentalize one's feelings in order to maintain a professional demeanor. In English, you say? All right -- being able to keep your feelings under control so you don't fall in love with a client.
Last but not least, there's also the cold, hard truth: Not everyone is attractive enough to work in the high-end of the business. Escorts aren't homely or overweight or battling acne problems. And should someone with those characteristics try to enter the world of sex work, well, they're going to find themselves on the bottom end of the business.
And trust me, it ain't pretty.
Without the above-average beauty and a good dose of social grace, a prospective escort is going to realize that the client thinks it's OK to treat him/her anyway they see fit. And what is the first thing an escort has to do when they meet a client?
ESTABLISH WHO'S IN CHARGE -- THE ESCORT.
So, teen readers: Please, pretty please, with a whip cream and cherry on top, don't use my blog as a blueprint. Regardless about what your parents and teachers might tell you about prostitutes, most of us do in fact have hearts. And to be quite honest, I'd say we might be even more sensitive than the general population.
I don't want to read about anyone getting hurt -- physically or otherwise. So keep reading, keep e-mailing, but for Christ's sake, do not go head-first into the industry. Without proper guidance, it's a choice you may live to regret.
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