What do I mean by that? Well, for starters, my client's well-being is in my hands. Because let's face it, everyone: I'm the stronger one in the scenario. I'm taller, heavier, more muscular, and almost certainly have more sexual experience. True, my clients are sometimes ten, fifteen or even twenty years my senior. It doesn't matter. I'm the one who's in charge.
There's a trite phrase out there, something along the lines of, "With great power, comes great responsibility." For some reason I think it has something to do with Superman, or perhaps the TV series Smallville, but I could be wrong. And while I doubt the creators of either Superman or Smallville had escorts in mind when coining that phrase, it's certainly not without merit in sex work.
It's my responsibility to make sure my clients are calm, comfortable, and have a safe, pleasurable hour or two. I would never, ever, under any circumstances, try anything that Simone and I do in our free time. OK, a quick slap on the ass is fine if client requests it, but beyond that? Nope, sorry. I'm just not that kind of escort.
Of course one can't mention safety and responsibility without mentioning contraception, both on her and on my own behalf. Condoms are a must, and if she tells me that she's on the pill as well, all the better. I also start each booking with a general statement, asking the client if there's anything I should know. This can be related to health, anything sexual they don't like, etc.
All of this might sound rather basic, but in the world of sex work it's very, very important. And not to sound my own horn here, but I truly believe the world would be a better place if everyone -- escort or no -- acted similarly in their own sex lives. Hell, even their non-sex lives. Just be safe and responsible, you know?
A safe and responsible escort is a successful and happy escort. And once we get into the world of BDSM, well, it's even more important. Still, I'm not a member of that community, though I can only imagine how crucial safety is.
I have only a few more bookings left before I prepare for the move up north. I'll chronicle my last few nights as an escort as best I can, but after that, things are going to change.